Hi, I'm Becca and I'm here to help you
Whether you arrived here from a referral, the recommendation of a friend, or by banging your head against the computer keyboard (doing a facepalm with a cell phone in your hand), I’m happy you made it! We live in a society where asking for help isn’t always encouraged, so I commend you for taking the initiative. You’re prioritizing your emotional and mental health so you can be more present with yourself, in your own life and the lives of others.
“All the work you do in therapy is in service of knowing yourself, and learning how to get your needs met so you can be your best self.”
You may have questions or concerns...
Is it too late to change after years of anxiously cycling through the same behaviors? Will I ever be a good enough parent to my adopted and biological children and still keep my marriage together? I don’t feel like I have the tools to cope with a traumatized child. I can’t find the will to make it through another day. Why won’t my kids listen? Will my communication patterns ever improve? Will I ever have the strength to ask for what I need? Does life get easier after a divorce?
Take a breath.
You do not deserve to suffer from the weight of your worries. You are worthy of accessing support to face your challenges. Sometimes it seems impossible to slow down, take that next breath, or get out of bed. Whatever your particular situation, whatever obstacles you face, it's critical to your mental health to create time and space for conversation - both with yourself and with others.
At its core, self-care isn’t about an expensive vacation or a new outfit (though those things are nice and sometimes needed). Self-care is about being present with yourself and putting your energy back into your body, acknowledging your feelings, and finding your center.
Take a step
Meeting with a trained therapist can help you reframe and reflect. They might move you toward mindfulness, to honor and work through your feelings with intention, rather than judging yourself or reacting to every raw emotional eruption. A therapist can help you observe and adjust your thoughts and behavioral patterns, as you work through changes and opportunities in your life. A therapist can assist you in envisioning new possibilities. What would it be like if you…
Express your needs
Release a worry for just one week
Communicate kindly with yourself
Accept that there’s no such thing as the perfect parent Listen before reacting
Set clear and consistent boundaries at home and at work
Give yourself permission to part with a thing or a thought
Try something totally new
I’ll meet you at the trailhead
Life can feel like a series of scaling mountain after mountain, but you don’t have to do this hike alone. Since you’ve already taken the first steps, I’ll meet you where you are and walk alongside you to support you in your journey. Collaboratively, we can explore the hurdles that hinder growth, and the patterns of behavior that inhibit you from moving forward. And, (to lean into the hiking analogy a little more) I can help you navigate unfamiliar terrain with tools that have proven useful to “climbers” that came before.
When you step into a space with me - even though it may be virtual - I want you to know I will do everything I can to create a welcome and warm environment where you feel seen and heard. I’m committed to treating each client with deep empathy and providing support along the path to health and healing.
I became a therapist because I am passionate about caring for and advocating on behalf of people. I’m a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW), with more than ten years of experience working with children and families, often connected to adoption and foster care systems. As an adoptee in a family with both biological and adopted children, working with clients in the adoption field has given me the chance to share my own story and use my personal understanding of these complex family dynamics/systems and unique emotional experiences.
I offer individualized and family counseling services from a relational psychotherapeutic approach. The relational part means I take into account the importance of social dynamics, culture, and close relationships on any individual’s well being, and the psychotherapeutic part is indicative of a holistic approach that can involve methods from cognitive-behavioral, humanistic, or psychoanalytic traditions. My treatment is deeply rooted in attachment, which underscores the importance of our relationships and acknowledges that the attachments formed early on in life through our environments have a lasting impression on our sense of self, our well-being, and our relationships.
As an integrated clinician, I have utilized creative arts therapies in assisting clients to work through some of their frustrations and challenges. I’m open to finding forms of communication that work well for clients, which is unique to you. These times have brought challenges, though with every challenge comes growth and a new beginning. I look forward to meeting you on whatever path you find yourself on and walking ahead together.
There Will Be Work
Maybe it sounds dramatic, and will probably be the title of my first book, but it’s important to underscore the notion that therapy takes work! Just as with most things worth having in life, there is some work involved. Therapy is not handing over responsibility to another person. It’s not taking your brain in for a tune-up and signing off on the service at the end of the hour. It’s where the work begins.
You already have a sense that something needs to change. Positive change requires growth, and with growth, there can be challenges and discomfort along the way. That’s where the work comes in, most of which actually happens “outside the room.” You do have the strength to face your fears, confront uncomfortable truths, and find your authentic self amid all those labels and roles you’ve been assigned, or chosen for yourself. One step at a time.
I applaud you again for reaching out, as you may have already encountered obstacles on your way - whether it be a societal stigma, resistance from your family, financial barriers, or just finding the time to focus on you. So once again, well done, and now let’s get to work!
Imagine for a moment.
Before you go, try a condensed version of one of the visualization exercises I occasionally use with my clients: (click, lead to a service page?)
Be an observer of your own body. Acknowledge whatever worry arises. Say the worry out loud or to yourself. Then, in your mind’s eye, visualize yourself setting that worry on top of a cloud, and letting it float away. You can’t access that worry any more today. It’s on the cloud, after all, and we all know that no one can ever remember the password to access the cloud. Okay, that’s a different kind of cloud, but the point is, learn a lesson from Princess Elsa and Let. It. Go.
Yes, I know. It’s hard, and that’s why I’m here to help.
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